Are you ruining your relationship?
Do I think you should take family trips? Of course, I do but many times couples put their children and life before their marriage and how can you show your children what a healthy marriage looks like if you do not take the time to reconnect and remember why you feel in love. All couples need that alone time. My husband and I make it a priority in our marriage to spend some much-needed quality time to reconnect at least twice a year because our relationship depends on it.
Kid Free Weekend
What’s more appealing than traveling to a sunny beach, drinks with funny names and my handsome husband? There are not any kids saying “Mom, watch this! “Mom, look at me! mommy, momma, mom, I know you hear me calling your name.” Family vacations definitely have its place but couples need to remember it’s just as important to cultivate their relationship as it is to ensure their kids have a great summer vacation traveling to unknown places. Believe it or not, your kids will not wilt away and die if you recharge and reconnect with your spouse without them.
For every parent who says it’s crucial to spend some time away and travel without the demands of being “Mom” or “Dad,” there’s one who believes children should never be left out of a family trip or who feels tremendous guilt for leaving their children behind with the grandparents.
Liar Liar Pants on Fire!
Are you lying to your friends and children telling them you are traveling for work because you don’t want to look like a bad mom or dad? Society puts a stigma on parents who don’t make their children the “end all be all”. Parents are made to feel like once they have kids the world should stop and they can’t enjoy life anymore. Who told y’all that? Where is this written in the mommy handbook that your kids should be your everything? Don’t get me wrong I love my daughter Madison and I would take a bullet for her but my life does not revolve around her and she should know what a healthy relationship looks like, which doesn’t include having her connected to my hip with each move I make.
Do not feel like a bad a parent
Women are made to feel like they are bad moms or how looked down upon by other mothers who feel it is not culturally acceptable to go off without your kids. Lucky for me I don’t care about what is culturally acceptable.
If I am going to raise a happy, balanced daughter, then I have to show her what a happy, healthy and loving environment looks like. My daughter knows I love her but she also knows Mommie and Dad need alone time and that includes taking a trip twice a year that does not include her.
Our choices, how we parent, and what we teach will be etched into the core of our children’s lives and they do not disappear. So, if your time away with your husband is something as simple as a reserving a hotel room for the night, going to the movies, or booking a lavish vacation for the two of you then you’ve got to go! And you’ve got to make sure your kids know you’re going and why Mommie and Daddy need this time alone.
Be your best when you get back and show your little ones that mom and dad are in love and this is what couples do who are in love. You can also involve the kids in the planning process so they will not feel left out. Let them help decide where mom and dad will go next.
Get out of your Comfort Zone